Hi, I 'm Kerry StutzmanParentologist and therapist empowering imperfect parents to create a loving, connected family.
Before I had kids, no one told me what it’s like to be “in the trenches” with little people who scream when they don’t get their way, kick and climb on me, wake me up early regardless of how late I went to bed, and throw the game board and all the pieces if they’re not winning. No one told me how hard it is to show up like an adult when parenting teens.
It’s like this secret club that only experienced parents get to join.
I’ve poured myself into mothering for 26 years and have SIX kids in a blended family. I’ve been beaten up enough by life to have learned a lot the hard way. On top of that, I’ve been teaching parenting for 22 years and am a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT) specializing in parents. I come from a place of heart, tenderness, and honoring the souls of our children. I’m playful and can make fun of myself. I’m not afraid to talk about the “hard stuff” like:
- how implementing good parenting skills can require us to do our own inner work
- how internal criticism, guilt, and stress can be ignited by parenting
- how raising a family can strain marriages/relationships
I am here to let you know you’re NORMAL if you find parenting to be challenging in ways you didn’t expect. If you’re an imperfect, motivated parent raising imperfect, real children, then I might be the right fit for you.
Navigating the Teen Years
Ed Gerety and I recently discussed how parents can keep their kids talking to them through the teen years. He has an awesome podcast called “Navigating the Teen Years” for parents and invited me to be a guest.
Keeping those lines of communication open can be challenging, but so critically important. I recently completed some critical research on teen suicide. We asked a simple question; “What do you wish your parent’s knew”? You may be surprised by their answers.
You can read about the Bridge the Gap project here on my website.
Notes from the field
Most Sunday mornings I share stories from the heart, high lights and low lights, parenting tips, and hopefully a bit of perspective that will level out this sometimes rough playing field of raising young humans. My life’s work is to help all of us to become the best parents we can be for our kids. Don’t worry, I will never ever share your email with anyone, and I promise to do my absolute best to be relevant, fun, and a source of balance in your life.
Kerry’s new book is available now on Amazon
Sanity Savers normalizes the topsy-turvy whirlwind of parenting. Through intimate, candid, bite-size stories, Kerry shares her journey through this maelstrom and the discoveries she has made along the way about how to maintain our sanity and sense of humor. Her sanity-saving tips are humorous, uplifting, and infinitely practical. Her approach is so honest and relatable that it may feel at times like you are sharing a latte with your best friend. In Sanity Savers, Kerry taps into the collective wisdom gleaned from twenty-plus years of navigating not only her own parenting journey but also the paths of thousands of others.
What they say…
“Kerry had a very warm delivery; personable, and tried-and-true. Wonderful content delivered in a transparent way. Held my attention!”
-Mother of girl, 3
We love that you gave us things to implement right away, it made us feel very hopeful, and we are thankful for that and for you.
Emma, mom of boys 8 and 6
Working with Kerry is the most productive hour of my week. Our conversations lead to powerful realizations and invaluable skills that affect every other hour of my life. It's like a reset and power-boost button in one.
Kerry created a comfortable environment where everyone feels okay to share and ask questions. She presents the material in an interesting way. She does a great job of monitoring time and tailoring class to what was useful and relevant to us. Great job of answering questions, but keeping the class focused.
Annie and Jake, parents of teenage girls
"I’m definitely a happier parent! My time with my kids has become more enjoyful and valuable."
Mother of boy 5 and girl 3
"I feel more confident! Because of that, I enjoy my child more and have more fun."
Mother of 17 month old
"After taking the class, I feel I can remain mature and not fall to my child’s level of anger and frustration."
Mother of eleven year old girl
"Kerry was very open, warm, accepting. I learned strategies that have changed my perspective and discovered joy I had lost"
Mother and Preschool Teacher
“Kerry has spoken some of the most inspirational, helpful and practical advice I’ve heard in years! Thank you!”
Christine, mother daughters 3 & 5 years old
“I really liked how Kerry was open to all different parenting styles and needs during the class. She was able to hear from everyone and I felt connected to her and the other people in the class”
Mother of 3 year old
What Are Connected Families Like?
- Everyone feels seen and connected
- Internal sense of calm
- Living in sync with family’s values
- Same-page parenting
- People can relax around each other
- Imperfection is embraced
- Solid adult relationships
- Emotional intelligence
- Past wounds are healed
- Anger is not out of control
- People own their part
- Playfulness and laughter
Working with Kerry
Do you feel FULLY ALIVE? Do you laugh from your belly and sob from the depths of your heart?
Being FULLY ALIVE means honoring the full range of our feelings without numbing parts of ourselves.
Living FULLY ALIVE means embracing our imperfections.
If you are an imperfect parent who loves your kids, this is the place for you.
Parenting can be wonderful and maddening at the same moment.
Kerry Stutzman’s life work helps parents navigate the complicated maze of raising emotionally healthy children.
Kerry’s favorite audience is parents; her favorite topic is parenting. She entertains with real-life stories, touches hearts, and teaches practical strategies for strengthening family connections.
Kerry inspires participants to be the parents they want their kids to have, and learn the strategies for nurturing healthy relationships.
A Free 6-Step Guide to Putting an End to Misbehavior
Get the Guide
When it comes to stopping Misbehavior, it seems like most parents put their focus on the behavior they DON’T want.
In this simple, practical, 6-step guide I will tackle a challenge that each of us parents face, no matter how grown up our kids think they are.
What specific behavior do you want to put an end to? What has convinced your child that this behavior is a good idea? What need of your child’s is being met by this behavior? What specific behavior do you want more of? How can you create opportunities to practice this behavior? Are there any holes in your plan?
Like a good therapist, I will never, ever share your info.