Be Careful About Taking Away What Your Kids Need the Most

When we’ve got a seriously underachieving youngster, it’s awfully tempting to resort to taking away all sorts of things in a desperate attempt to motivate them to do their schoolwork.

Sadly, this often backfires, leading the child to become even more resistant about learning.

Most of us wouldn’t feel that motivated if our spouse said, “Ok, that’s it! No more golf [or whatever else we might love to do] until I start getting some better reports from your boss!”

While it’s entirely reasonable to set some limits on TV, video games, and other entertainment activities when kids are doing poorly in school, taking them out of their favorite sport, Boy Scouts, music lessons, etc. is a bad idea. The research is clear:
Children who are involved in a healthy extracurricular activity are far less likely to get involved in drugs, sex, gangs, and other high-risk activities.

Kids who are struggling in school need at least one natural high…so that they aren’t so tempted by various artificial ones.

Ugh…I just need a break!

Ugh…I just need a break!

There never seems to be enough time in the day to get things done. You know, all those little things outside of wiping butts, making lunches, helping with homework, building your teens’ character by saying, “NO,” and doing something that pulls at your time and...

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Ugh…I just need a break!

Please take good care of my boy

We parents all want our kids, when they’re teens, to be able to come to us with their struggles, don’t we? And we want to feel close when they’re adults? If so, then much of parenting is about preparing kids for their adolescence. If they learn when they’re little...

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